tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post8199718149626103708..comments2013-12-25T16:29:38.535-08:00Comments on Controversial discussions are everyone's favorite.: Justin Lookadoo and maybe lookadouche?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-36509764888870724982013-11-23T12:21:55.304-08:002013-11-23T12:21:55.304-08:00Ms. Menezes,
As a father of two boys (4yr old, 2 ...Ms. Menezes,<br /><br />As a father of two boys (4yr old, 2 mon old), I cannot tell you how encouraging it is to read something so intelligently written. It's encouraging because, it will be people like you, in your generation that will (hopefully) teaching my boys in the future. As you get older your convictions may or may not change slightly. However, I hope that you never lose your ability to argue for them so articulately as you did in this post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09477802814838540504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-35453420102421921812013-11-19T06:15:10.819-08:002013-11-19T06:15:10.819-08:00Wow. This is much worse than anything on his webs...Wow. This is much worse than anything on his website. And I had problems with Datable website, but things there didn't seem so blatantly misoginistic, just misguided. I actually ended up writing him about it (though ironically the e-mail I found on his site to contact him was emily@lookadoo.com His wife? Secretary?). But now that I know how misogynistic his remarks actually got, I wonder if I wasted my time (tossed my pearls before swine so to say). <br /><br />You are inspiring. Keep writing! Galehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02119498262301807853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-28064868319696389382013-11-18T21:02:08.554-08:002013-11-18T21:02:08.554-08:00Amazing! I had to share your post on my FB. I am s...Amazing! I had to share your post on my FB. I am so glad to see young women using their critical thinking skills and speaking their minds. Keep up the good work. This man was hoping you would be too young to see through his lies. Trust me, when you get older (this is not condescending, you have shown how bright you are already) you'll see that being "datable" is not the #1 thing on your mind and the men that want a Lookadoo's imaginary idea of what a women is are not the men you want to be around. He's an idiot, your an inspiration. You one, him zero!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03597204624767059583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-3216811423815775392013-11-18T17:58:31.148-08:002013-11-18T17:58:31.148-08:00Your restraint, stance for free speech and encoura...Your restraint, stance for free speech and encouragement of true dialogue, and clarity of thought are truly admirable. I am delighted to know you are part of the up and coming generation. Hooray for critical thinking combined with compassion! <br />JanaJana Svoboda, LCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16665715476161172604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-28425887630830607812013-11-18T14:14:13.700-08:002013-11-18T14:14:13.700-08:00This one REALLY gets me "In the second Q&...This one REALLY gets me "In the second Q&A session, as this assembly took place twice that day, Lookadoo stated, to a student who inquired about gender equality, that if she could not bench press a man, she could not be equal to a man." I can't even BEGIN to put into well-formed words how offensive and prehistoric this is. That answer alone should've sealed his coffin in the public speaking arena.<br /><br />And he joins the likes of Westboro Baptist in making Christians seem like idiotic, cruel people. I'm so sorry you had to sit through that, and kudos to you for standing up to it. I did notice that before this debacle, there was a woman on his site-supposedly a co-author, who has now been removed. Also removed were his forums. Hopefully he will crawl back into his cave with his bottle of hair bleach and his weight set after this debacle.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12273802881576637143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-11350454040775219352013-11-18T10:13:18.466-08:002013-11-18T10:13:18.466-08:00I am so sorry this man was welcomed into your scho...I am so sorry this man was welcomed into your school. He should not have been given a forum for his hateful, ignorant misogynistic beliefs, especially not in a school. Keep fighting the good fight, and always be proud to be a feminist!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09695228861795929796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-30501642349425580532013-11-18T09:51:09.717-08:002013-11-18T09:51:09.717-08:00Ms. Menezes,
You have learned a valuable nugget o...Ms. Menezes,<br /><br />You have learned a valuable nugget of knowledge that I hope you continue to use throughout your life. It's one that seems less and less likely to be used in our hyper-partisan community, especially online. I'm speaking of the right for other people to have and express opinions that aren't yours and that you disagree with. I don't personally believe in the message set forth by Mr. Lookadoo, nor do I believe he is helping anyone, especially women, with his dating rules and ideas he has posted on his website. But everyone has a right to their own opinion and they have a right to express it. Many teens, like yourself, who attended the presentation have every right to put forth their opinions and reaction to his speech. You mentioned that you listened to the entire speech again, and if possible, it would be wonderful to hear it to make an unbiased opinion on. As you correctly surmised, much of the information out on the internet currently has little to do with his actual words and more about the indignation in regards to what he stands for. It makes forming a fair and unbiased opinion rather difficult.<br /><br />As to the last commenter, a Concerned Eagle, please don't take their comments too much to heart. While I do see their point - that it's difficult to have a fair and unbaised discussion with someone when you think of them as a "douche" - it's also rather evident that they are trying to make you feel as if you are somehow in the wrong for not only expressing your opinion, but that you have a negative opinion of Mr. Lookadoo and his message. From your statements you indicated that when others attempted to have a open and honest discussion with Mr. Lookadoo he dismissed them or talked down to them. If that is how he wished to engage others, then by all means you should return the favor and treat him as he chooses to treat others. For that, my young friend, is the meaning of equality.<br /><br />For myself, I think your online legacy shall not be harmed in any way for speaking your opinion. You write with greater logic and compassion than many decades older than you. Any future employer who stumbles upon your entry here should find you to be a conscientious young woman of intelligence. If they find offense in it then they are doing you a favor by NOT hiring you. People like yourself deserve a far better and more welcoming place of employment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09000290658154655656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-11233411328477089652013-11-18T07:13:20.987-08:002013-11-18T07:13:20.987-08:00Who exactly do you think paid for this presentatio...Who exactly do you think paid for this presentation, B1Texan? I could be wrong, but I'd guess it came out of the school's budget, which comes from levees at the local level, and taxes at the federal. How is that not taxes, and the government?~Sarah Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08739069318979213023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-84150866227016088722013-11-17T22:49:29.500-08:002013-11-17T22:49:29.500-08:00The government didn't pay for it.The government didn't pay for it.B1Texanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12150174370145400836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-69651868132173007342013-11-17T22:48:03.452-08:002013-11-17T22:48:03.452-08:00It wasn't taxpayer money.It wasn't taxpayer money.<br />B1Texanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12150174370145400836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-57246562597531052092013-11-17T08:25:06.099-08:002013-11-17T08:25:06.099-08:00I love what you've done, the impact you were a...I love what you've done, the impact you were able to make with your thoughtful writing. Your classmates likewise are impressive Thank you for advocating for yourselves but also increasing the thoughtfulness of the public (you've stirred some neurons). Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15589812931571925723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-84748615802389065512013-11-16T15:31:07.400-08:002013-11-16T15:31:07.400-08:00So well written, and very much on point in the rea...So well written, and very much on point in the realm of feminism and how it often gets twisted(another stereotype much?). It's so cool to see agency amongst teens, especially in light of the small town horrors that continue to target young girls. I hope you continue to create change as responsibly as you have in both speaking out and addressing the real issues despite shoddy journalism(which, let's face it, is the majority of 24-hour reporting). Well done!! Shayontanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607611007482595021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-31301291481511257782013-11-16T11:51:03.068-08:002013-11-16T11:51:03.068-08:00Thank you for writing this. And as someone else ha...Thank you for writing this. And as someone else has already commented, I have a feeling you will go far in life. And despite what Mr. Lookadoo believes, I have a feeling you will also help bring other PEOPLE (not just women) up with you. I have three young daughters and I hope they grow up to be like you.Katrina Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358110366958802291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-57876455624844641862013-11-16T08:12:06.310-08:002013-11-16T08:12:06.310-08:00My husband is a gamer and has been pretty much sin...My husband is a gamer and has been pretty much since the age when he could operate a controller. Of course he can be a dork, and so can I, though I'm not a gamer (but I know and have female friends who are gamers!), so I have to be dorky in other ways. He manages to mix it up, too. :P He's also a very intelligent, interesting, articulate, affectionate human being who holds down an 8-to-5 as a university-educated engineer, and credits video games for teaching him the importance of reading (hard to finish quests if you can't read what you're supposed to do) and math, as well as how to reason logically and spatially, how to read a map/orienteer, how to communicate and work productively with others (again, hard to finish MMO quests if your group can't communicate and get along), etc, etc. All of this to say kudos to your son for standing up for himself and gamers throughout his high school! When a quarter of all teens and nearly half of adults 18-49 play video games at least occasionally, it's people like this uninformed speaker that need to watch who they're insulting.Mama Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03670699301627855487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-8683129868203700052013-11-15T20:43:48.051-08:002013-11-15T20:43:48.051-08:00Thank you so much.Thank you so much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-28327555186806199602013-11-15T20:42:16.114-08:002013-11-15T20:42:16.114-08:00Thank you for all that you are doing, and I wish y...Thank you for all that you are doing, and I wish you support. I will definitely take the time to look into your movement, and I wish you the best of luck!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-87728197806317349872013-11-15T20:41:07.951-08:002013-11-15T20:41:07.951-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-34215898470383104302013-11-15T20:38:52.326-08:002013-11-15T20:38:52.326-08:00Thank you so much. :)Thank you so much. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-66044342479650280262013-11-15T20:37:43.368-08:002013-11-15T20:37:43.368-08:00Thank you, so very much.Thank you, so very much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-58178123003254036732013-11-15T20:34:39.886-08:002013-11-15T20:34:39.886-08:00Personally, it means a lot when someone compliment...Personally, it means a lot when someone compliments my writing. Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-32539308115382728552013-11-15T20:33:58.622-08:002013-11-15T20:33:58.622-08:00Thank you so much.Thank you so much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022618772984534417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-26390181101998411222013-11-15T19:59:31.166-08:002013-11-15T19:59:31.166-08:00Wonderful blog. Keep up the great work! You are am...Wonderful blog. Keep up the great work! You are amazing, and I'm so glad you took the time to write this. It takes a lot of bravery to question stuff like that, ESPECIALLY when you're in high school. Hats off to you for saying what you did. You inspire me :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-32868793015098410262013-11-15T13:02:35.561-08:002013-11-15T13:02:35.561-08:00I sent the following inquiry to his management:
&...I sent the following inquiry to his management:<br /><br />"We are planning a series of talks and need a really misogynistic asshat who is not afraid to speak from a total lack of common decency, knowledge, insight and human feeling."<br /><br />Wonder if he will accept?Sl8ofHandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13809435976695298228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-35658496352310328302013-11-15T12:56:14.660-08:002013-11-15T12:56:14.660-08:00As another feminist almost twice your age, and as ...As another feminist almost twice your age, and as a fellow blogger whose blog is focussed on ending all discrimination (It's in Japanese, but you are certainly welcome to look^_^ I believe Google can somewhat translate it), and someone Social Work to actually stand up for others the way a social worker (another Japanese woman) stood up for me, I really can only wish I was this intelligent, well-spoken (even in Japanese!), and possessed this high-level of critical thinking at your age. Now, at almost thirty, sure, I could probably be this analytical, but not at 16-17. At that age, I was a dropout-day-labourer. It took me years to possess the reasoning skills that you have already acquired. With your intelligence, wit and skill, already at such a young age, you have such a good chance at a wonderful future. Also, it gives me, and I see others as well, hope that when it's your generation's turn, especially if there's a lot of your peers like you, things may be pretty good. The event just passed for this year, but I am part of this movement (no, I did not start it! That credit goes to a Mimi Lenox), and I wonder if you'd be interested. True feminism, as you said, is a movement toward equality. Once we are equal, strife and suffering will be greatly reduced. https://www.facebook.com/BlogBlastForPeaceagoodcupofteahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02954525870289952975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6955005960568316630.post-15697382243582058912013-11-15T12:46:50.195-08:002013-11-15T12:46:50.195-08:00Dear Aisleen: I’m a professor at Southern Methodi...Dear Aisleen: I’m a professor at Southern Methodist University (Perkins School of Theology), and I simply want to note my admiration for your publicly outspoken, articulate, and courageous critique of Mr. Lookadoo’s comments made at the Richardson High School assembly. Appropriately, you’re angry at demeaning and sexist stereotypes and you spoke out courageously, but at the same time the tone of your analysis and critique has been thoughtful, level-headed, and constructive. Hoorah for your public courage, and that of your peers! Keep up the great work. ~ Dr. Susanne JohnsonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com